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Cheryl Strayed discusses her memoir "Wild" with National Geographic Traveler editor at large Don George at National Geographic headquarters March eleven. (Rebecca Drobis/National Geographic)

They had come to worship at the chantry of Cheryl.

Cheryl, their mentor, their confidante, their "inspiration," they kept saying. "Simply such an inspiration."

And here she was, on stage at National Geographic'south headquarters in Washington Wednesday night, her name and her volume comprehend projected onto a wall behind her: Cheryl Strayed, "Wild."

She is a adult female who, in the midst of her flailing 20s (a divorce, her mother's expiry, a summer of heroin use), went on a grueling 94-mean solar day solo hike of the Pacific Crest Trail, and who, nearly 20 years later, as a mildly successful freelance writer, holed up in a borrowed motel to pen a memoir about her expedition of self-discovery.

The book became an Oprah-stickered bestseller. The bestseller became a movie starring Reese Witherspoon. "On my obituary, my own picture won't even exist there," Strayed jokes to her audience. "It will be Reese Witherspoon."

"Wild" is based on a New York Times all-time-selling memoir that chronicles Cheryl Strayed'southward (Resse Witherspoon) 1,100-mile hike upward the Pacific Crest Trail. (Fox Searchlight)

"Wild" — the book, the motion picture, and its collective fandom — has become the woman. Now, Strayed, 46, must both accept and choose how this miracle will define her career going forrad. If she wants, she could surely ride the wave of her bestseller for years to come. The tickets to this event sold out in 48 hours. The audience has come to meet the woman whose story they know and then intimately — merely they seem to love her because they come across their own stories in hers: losing parents, surviving corruption, living through divorces, freeing themselves from addictions. In due east-mails and letters, and at events such every bit these, they tell her how baroque it is "how much they take in mutual."

"What's interesting is information technology'south not then bizarre," Strayed tells the crowd. "We all essentially love the aforementioned mode, we suffer the aforementioned fashion, we struggle the same way."

Heads nod all around the auditorium at this, as they do throughout the evening, whenever Strayed — a blond, broad-shouldered adult female with a serene grinning and confident presence — utters a piece of wisdom similar this, or in fact pretty much any time she opens her oral cavity. Her fans gaze upwards at her, mouths slightly open. A moderator lobs gentle questions, and Strayed keeps the answers deeply personal and comforting.

Cheryl Strayed on the Pacific Crest Trail in 1995. (Cheryl Strayed)

Strayed preparing for the Oscars in Los Angeles concluding month. (Joe Scarnici/Getty Images For American Lung Clan)

"Tell me how the trail defined your sense of dwelling," he asks, and Strayed delivers a five-infinitesimal response punctuated by paw gestures and eye contact.

"In finding a sense of home on the trail, it was like finding a sense of habitation in the world," she tells them. "When y'all make a home in the world, what you lot're really proverb is you've made a dwelling house in your own bodies. That wherever y'all get, you are safe."

The crowd is nigh all women. The xx-somethings who followed Strayed's formerly anonymous advice column for the Web site the Rumpus, "Honey Sugar." The 60-something book-clubbers who couldn't go enough of "Wild." Even a small number of superfans who read her debut novel, "Torch," from 2006.

[A story Cheryl Strayed wrote for The Washington Post Magazine in 2008]

There is a woman who says Strayed inspired her to enter a x-mile run, years after quitting the military gave her an excuse to stop exercising. In that location is a adult female who says Strayed inspired her to divorce her husband and accept that she is gay.

Brushing off Strayed as a cog in the emotional beach-read industry would be ignoring the deep influence her work has had on these women, from small victories to entire life reversals. They take come to see if the real affair lives up to the inspiration in their minds. With every self-deprecating cuss word, every charming Witherspoon anecdote, every "You guys know what that's similar, right?" Strayed affirms their trust.

She strongly feels that information technology'southward well-nigh time to scale back, though.

"My whole thing right now is saying no," Strayed says in an interview before her spoken communication. "Kind of my old me hasn't caught up with my new me yet. I need to be able to say, yes, I'm thrilled 'Wild' was and then well-received, but now I need to move on to the adjacent thing."

Turning down speaking gigs is the opposite of her former freelancer'southward golden rule: Say yes to everything. Once "Wild" took off, that rule went out the window. In that location were just so many requests. She was vacationing in Maui with Oprah and coming together George Clooney at the Golden Globes. She was speaking on higher campuses and attention galas for nonprofits working on grief counseling and domestic violence — and all the while, she yet has a hubby and two kids back home in Portland, Ore. Strayed has appearances scheduled through October that were booked a twelvemonth ago. And fifty-fifty now, with the movie nearly out of theaters and the book reaching its three-year anniversary, the requests keep pouring in.

[Cheryl Strayed says 'Wild' faithfully tracks her memoir of a solo hike]

To navigate this burst into fame, the woman whom legions turn to for emotional guidance needed a guide of her own.

She found information technology in Elizabeth Gilbert.

Gilbert, the author of "Eat, Pray, Beloved" was sort of the Cheryl Strayed of 2006 — a freelance writer whose chart-topping memoir turned her into a sort of guru for the Lululemon set. She also triumphed on the lecture circuit; she, too, was played by an Oscar winner in the moving-picture show version of her book. Just Gilbert somewhen moved on to other books.

"Elizabeth knows exactly where I am in this moment of my career," Strayed said. The two take never met in person but have been e-mailing back and forth ever since Strayed sought her out — recognizing, well, how baroque it is how much they take in common.

"More than recently, since the picture show came out, I've been asking Elizabeth, 'Okay, how do I close this tap off?' " Strayed says.

They've talked near learning to say no and what information technology ways to disappoint people. They've talked nearly the responsibility an writer has when the volume of her life takes on a life of its own, and where that responsibility ends.

"You want to be at that place for information technology," she said. "And so you get to this point where you're similar, okay, this has been a long time now, I demand to pace back."

And then, she has to effigy out the answer to the question all her fans accept: What will she exercise side by side?

In the 70 minutes Strayed spends after her talk signing books ("Stay Wild," she writes, and doodles a middle), she's asked nearly her adjacent movement again and again.

"I'k working on a novel and a memoir," she tells one fan.

"I'll probably exercise the memoir first," she tells another. "It'due south called . . . 'Mild,' " she says with a wink. Anybody effectually her erupts in laughter and snaps photos of her on their phones.

These are the aforementioned people who volition rush out to buy her new book when it arrives, and very perhaps, be disappointed by it. Or so says the vocalization in Strayed's head that Gilbert is helping her shut out.

"It'south kind of none of my business how the side by side volume does or what people think of information technology," she said in the interview. "I tin't write with those people on my shoulder, I just take to exercise my piece of work."

Until "Wild," the challenge was finding the fourth dimension and money to survive as a writer. Now she has an affluence of both. The borrowed cabin where she wrote her book has been replaced by a cabin of her ain, but xv minutes away from the Pacific Crest Trail. And only this calendar week, she finished renovating the cranium of her Portland home.

It is her very kickoff writing office. The challenge at present is what to practise with it.

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